Regulated Couple
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Notes on bodies, couples and repair

Essays for therapists and couples on polyvagal theory, somatic practice, conflict cycles and repair, from Mind Meredian.

Softly illustrated figures representing connection and co-regulation

12 August 2026 · 6 min read

Polyvagal theory for couples, without the jargon

What ventral, sympathetic and dorsal states actually look like in a couple's living room — and why naming them changes the fight.

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26 August 2026 · 5 min read

Your conflict cycle is not a character flaw

Pursue and withdraw, criticise and shut down: why couple conflict loops are protective strategies, and how therapists can work with them somatically.

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9 September 2026 · 5 min read

Repair is a felt experience, not an apology script

Why 'I'm sorry' often fails to land in couple therapy, and what a body-based repair looks like instead.

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